On Saturday, May 30, 2015, Nancy and I celebrated sixty-two years of marriage. At dinner that evening, we talked about how our relationship has stood the test of time.
First, from the time we fell in love in the spring of 1948, we have enjoyed being together. On the senior picture Nancy gave to me, she wrote, “I’m always happiest when I’m with you.” That sentiment was true for both of us in 1949, and it’s still true today. We are still happiest when we are together.
Second, we have always treated each other with respect and courtesy. We say, “Please” and “Thank you” often, and communicate honestly and straightforwardly with each other. We kiss a lot, hug often and hold hands regularly. Each touch is a reminder of our love and affection for each other.
Third, we love to adventure together. When Nancy retired we pulled a trailer all over the country, always without an agenda, and where possible on blue highways only. But simply eating at a new restaurant or trying a new dish at a familiar restaurant can constitute an adventure for us.
Fourth, we don’t allow Satan to deprive us of our mutual joy. We easily and quickly forgive each other and those who have done us a disservice, and we sincerely believe the words of Abraham Lincoln, who said, “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Fifth, we have worshipped together ever since we began dating regularly in Gettysburg in 1948. Throughout married life, regardless of where we have lived, we have been in church on Sunday morning and often, on weekdays as well. It is where we learned to forgive and to love others as Christ loved us.